This topic has been on my mind and heart alot lately. Our culture is riddled with competition. I do think some healthy competition is good, like when you're playing a game. But when it comes to being a mom, there should not be competition with other moms. Every one is different. Every family is different. Every child is different. We all have different ways of dong things. One is no better than the other. It's just that, different. Instead of tearing others down, we should be encouraging others and lifting them up for even trying to be a good person, a good mom, a good anything. I was talking with my husband last night about this and I realized that I was not feeling very encouraged from other moms. I know I am doing the best I can and I feel like I am doing a good job, but sometimes we just need to hear it from another mom. Just a little confirmation, just a little pat on the back. I realized that I don't always encourage others either. It's easier to sit back and pass judgement. The right thing to do is not always the easiest.
I read a book when I first had my daughter that really helped put things in perspective. I may have to go back and re-read, it was just that good. Here's the link: Meg Meeker - Habits of Happy Mothers
We all need to stop with the negativity and judging. Try today to give a compliment to someone you see working hard, no matter what that may be.
This is so true and something all of us struggle with at some time. Probably more time than we like to admit. Your doing a fantastic job. You have a happy, healthy daughter and great marriage. In the grand scheme of things that is the very best award ever. (even if it would be nice to have a trophy to look at from time to time) I totally agree though, the mommy wars are so silly and competitive.
ReplyDeleteThe main reason I know you are a good mom is because Emmie is HAPPY. You do a fantastic job and try not to worry about what others think. Like you said, everyone is different and there is no right or wrong (well, maybe don't take your baby to a club, that sounds wrong.) :)
ReplyDeleteThat's sooo true and I think the SAHM/WM battle doesn't help. It is hard to not let it get to you sometimes! I also think we put a lot of pressure on ourselves. I will check out that book for sure! Glad to see you are back at blogging!
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